I am truly sorry for your loss.
Death is a natural conclusion to life, and whether the passing was expected or not, you will probably be in some form of shock.
This is normal, it is natural, and to be expected.
What happens now
Depending upon the cause of death and where it took place police may attend the scene and the deceased will be transferred to a morgue either by a funeral director or a medical examiner. For example; if the death occurred at home, the police will attend and you will most likely be asked questions. This is procedural and necessary. The deceased may be taken by ambulance to a hospital for a medical examiner to perform an autopsy to determine the cause of death. This will then be written onto the death certificate. You will require the death certificate before the funeral can take place.
The funeral planner or director role
One of the first people to contact will be a funeral planner or director. There are two choices in Australia the traditional funeral director who can be very inflexible and expensive or Picaluna.
I am very proudly part of the Picaluna community of Funeral Planners and Celebrants. We do funerals differently. You will feel comfortable knowing that your choices are respected in every way.
As a Picaluna Celebrant I will create inspirational, affordable and authentic farewells that pay tribute to a life lived. Every part of the service will be tailored to suit your families’ needs, rather than force them to conform to the rigid practices of an industry that is slow to evolve.
Your Picaluna funeral service is underpinned by 100% price transparency, plus 10% of profits to charity.
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Some of the services a planner will take care for you:
- transfer of the deceased from the place of death to the funeral home
- collect medical certificates and their dispatch to appropriate authorities
- register the death with the Registrar of Births, Deaths and Marriages;
- make arrangements with your choice of a venue, chapel or outdoor space;
- liaise with staff at the cemetery or crematorium you choose;
- consult with clergy or celebrant;
- assist with press notices if necessary;
- preparation of deceased for viewing;
- organise a hearse or other vehicles
- attendance book
- stationery and
- refreshments if necessary.
My role as your funeral celebrant
My role is to write the Order of Service, lead the service and assist at the service. (In context, I am the Minister but without the religion). In performing my role, I also liaise closely with the funeral director. I have a role in providing you with assistance to appropriate grief counsellors and supporting you in your decisions on the day and thereafter.
We meet and I take instructions from you. I spend time with you and your family gathering information about the deceased to ensure the service accurately reflects the deceased. In some cases I become the facilitator between a family’s differing views of what the deceased would have wanted. We set the tone of the service at this time, I will take many notes. I will then leave and write the service. I then send the service, based on our discussions and my notes, to you to review. On the day of the funeral, I will lead the service for you.
Once the funeral is over and depending on whether a cremation or burial was chosen, choices will still need to be made. If the deceased was cremated, a decision on what to do with the ashes will be needed.
- Spreading to the four winds may require consent from your local council.
- Taking the ashes home in the plastic receptacle provided or choosing an urn as displayed at the crematorium, is another choice.
- Interning the ashes at the crematorium, which usually has ample lush grounds, is the most common option.
Interning the ashes at the crematorium is very similar to buying property. You choose the location of the little plot the deceased would have liked. The associated costs are determined by the location that was chosen. This cost is in addition to the funeral itself. A plaque to commemorate the deceased can be produced by the crematorium also at an additional cost. You may want to consider who would like to be interned with the deceased and reserve further positions next to or nearby. Once the internment position is decided and paid for, you will be notified by crematorium staff when the plot and plaque is ready. Should you wish to be present at the internment, there may be an additional cost by the crematorium.